my parents raised 5 teenagers and this is what they would do in a situation like tihs.
lock down. this is indefinate, not for a month or two months, but until her attitude improves. give her priveledges back slowly, and in order from least to most important.
take everything out of her room except school books, clothes and bed sheets. no tv, no phone, no video games, no activities w/ out you present.
if she is left at home, say after school, ect, find some one to stay with her, or enroll her in an after school program.
tell her she is to write down her homework assignments everyday, and present it to you every day. if she has already completed it, she needs to show you that. once she's completed her homework at home, she is to present it to you so you can be sure she's done it.
you might talk to her teachers, they should be able to give you a list of upcoming homework assignments, so you'll know what she needs to do before hand.
give her a folder for all her homework assignments. make her put it in her book bag at the end of every day, and double check that it's there in, with the homework, in the morining. there is no reason for her to take it out after she's completed her homework, so there's no reason she shouldnt have her homework at school the next day.
when you tell her to do something, make her do it then, not "hey when you have a moment." she'll have plenty of free time to get her chores done.
also once she does get the priviledge of talking to her friends again, tell her that you have to approve them, any violation will result in going back to total lock down.
she'll try to be annoying so you will want her out of the house at 1st, but hold firm.
i dont have a teenager myself, but i'm only 26 and like i said, my parents had 5 teens all at the same time and we were terrible teens, so they figured out what worked really quickly!
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