Clare Kramer on Cozy Cosleeping

Our daughter sleeps in our bed. It isn't something that we planned to do before she was born, it just happened. I mean, we have a beautiful crib in her room, we just never put her in there! Her room is so far away from ours and she's so little, I can't see putting her in there at night. It doesn't feel right.

I love cosleeping with Gavin, and so does my husband. It's a great bonding time for the two of them. He works all day and sometimes late at night, so he doesn't get to see her or just be with her on the weekdays. And even though they're just sleeping next to each other in bed and not playing peek-a-boo or something, there is a sense of closeness there. For instance, this morning I got up at 7:00 and they slept in together until 9:30. That's bonding time that he wouldn't have had if she was sleeping in her room.

My parents and all of our friends were concerned about cosleeping. First they didn't think it was safe (we're totally safe about it). Then they said, "Good luck getting her to sleep in her crib!" My answer to was: "I don't really care!" When Gavin wants to sleep in her crib, I'll recognize it as a sign of independence. Maybe we'll make a ceremony of it. Maybe we'll celebrate her moving into a big-girl room and a big-girl bed on her first or second birthday. But for right now I think she's just too young to know that we're there for her even when we're not there. So for now we're keeping her next to us in our bed, nice and cozy, where we think she belongs!

Besides being a mom, Clare Kramer is best known as Glory on Buffy the Vampire Slayer.