Father's Day: Daddy's Little Girl
Submitted by sara
It would be an understatement to say my daughter loves her daddy. Every day is Father's Day at our house! My daughter knows the sound of him coming up the front porch and sticking his keys in the front door. When she hears the keys go in the door, she starts a frantic excited dance and squeals with excitement, "Dad, Daddeee!" He is promptly greeted by a big hug around the legs or a sign to be picked up.
On the days I work, she barely even notices when I come home. I get a quick glance, possibly a hug, and then she is off to play some more with dad. I seriously feel like chopped liver once dad gets home.
I can't tell you how happy I am that my husband is a fabulous father— and we'll be celebrating him on Father's Day! I knew when I married him that he would one day be a great dad. I know my daughter is going to have a life-changing bond with her father, which, I think, is essential for her healthy self-esteem development.
However, I feel a little left out— and not just on Father's Day! I don't want to be jealous, but part of me longs for the excitement she has when daddy comes home.
I don't want to sound immature or selfish. I love watching the way they play and laugh together and I want to have that relationship too. It looks like I am seen as the comforting provider by my daughter. She comes to me for help when she is hurt or she needs something, but when she wants to play, have fun or be silly, well I just won't do, it has to be dad. I know this is very typical. Mom is the comforter and dad tends to be the fun, playful one.
I think it is hard to accept, as a mom, that I can't be all things to my daughter. I know she needs a dad, but I guess, I never imagined how amazing their relationship would be. Part of me always thought I would be the number one in her life. My mom and I have a fantastic relationship. I consider her my best friend. I just assumed my relationship with my daughter would be the same. I am hoping, as she gets older, our bond will grow stronger as well. For right now though she is through and through a daddy's girl.
Can anyone else relate?