Handling Mother's Day With Your Mother-In-Law
Ah, the age-old mother-in-law dilemma. I seriously suggest that you take a look at the reasons you can't handle being around her and try to find a way to resolve the issue. She's going to be your MIL for a very long time, and surely there will be many family functions that you will both be attending. It would be a shame for your enjoyment to be sullied by her presence each and every time.
But that aside, you are entitled to be honored by your husband and kids in your own right. To get some personal family time, I would suggest that you split the day so that grandmothers are honored in the morning at brunch, for example, and then you get to have your family to yourself in the afternoon. Or another Mother's Day idea is to perhaps suggest that your husband spend some one-on-one time taking his mother out for brunch, to avoid the need for you to be with her at all. My guess is that she would be glad to have him all to herself for a little while.