Nanny 911: Acknowledge Mistakes and Move On
We're not perfect. We're parents. And we certainly can't expect our children to be perfect either. They make messes, don't do what they're told and act out—it's natural. Children learn about the world through trial and error—which means there will be lots of error! But one thing that we need to do as parents is teach kids that everyone makes mistakes—even YOU—and that it's OK.
Your challenge: Acknowledge Mistakes and Move On. (The Nannies refer to this as AMMO.)
Here are the Nannies' Tips for Acknowledging Mistakes:
- Stay calm. When your kids make a mistake, like spilling their juice on the dinner table, or even wetting the bed, don't make a big deal out of it or get upset. Just acknowledge what happened, and say, "Oops! OK, let's clean this up, shall we?" An even-keeled, calm voice is what makes it a non-issue. Yelling and screaming about messes to toddlers only makes them want to make more messes. (It got your attention, didn't it?)
- Don't shame or blame. The messages of shame and blame are harsh and can really take a toll on your child's self-esteem. Pointing fingers isn't going to help anything. Chances are, it was an accident, and your kids shouldn't be judged for it.
- Admit YOUR mistakes. If you make a mistake, like being late for pickup or packing your kids the wrong lunch, admit that you messed up, and apologize for it. You'll be showing your child that you respect his or her feelings, that it's OK to take ownership of your mistakes.
So remember: AMMO. Admit mistakes and move on. If it's your kid who makes a mess, simply address the situation, and don't assign blame. And if it's you who messes up, also acknowledge that you made a mistake. Apologize to your kid, and move on. We're all human!
And my question to you is: What mistakes did you own up to today? We all have them. And it's completely OK. And were you able to acknowledge your kid's mistakes, too? Please share all in the comments below.
Be sure to check in with your mommy allies on the Child Behavior Message Board. Check out these other challenges:
- Challenge 1: Prepare for Meltdowns
- Challenge 2: Stop Whining and Screaming
- Challenge 3: Say No to Saying No
- Challenge 4: Get Your Kids to Clean Up
- Challenge 5: Reward Good Behavior
- Challenge 6: Establish House Rules
- Challenge 7: Work on Your Most Challenging Challenge
- Challenge 8: Take a Mommy & Daddy Time-Out
- Challenge 9: Give Compliments
- Challenge 11: Say Please and Thank You
- Challenge 12: Work on This Week's Most Challenging Challenge
- Challenge 13: Pick Your Battles
- Challenge 14: Learning to Listen
- Challenge 15: Get Your Kids Talking
- Challenge 16: Keep Your Cool
- Challenge 17: Use a Timer
- Challenge 18: Give Effective Time Outs