"I Hate You"

I tell my kids the same thing my mom told me when I went through this phase (though admittedly I was a teenager/preteen when my attitude started) She use to say to me "that's ok, because I love you enough for the both of us" or "You won't like me until you're grown with your own kids" or "that means I'm doing it right" I've found if it doesn't seem to upset you, it'll stop faster,  since it has no power. My kids very rarely say this to me anymore, however my sisters kids say it to her all the time because it makes her cry.

Thanks so much...I think that makes me feel a little better :)

I once read that if you did not ever hear this from your child then you were doing something wrong! My son has told me hates me and I'm so mean when I have had to punish him (you know time out for doing whatever...yea so mean!). He always apologized, he was younger, maybe 6. He's now 8 and hasn't said it in a long time because he knows it hurts! My daughter who is 4 has never said it to me......yet!

We had the same exact thing happen here at our house.  She went through the "I hate you" phase and she doesn't say it very often anymore but she will say "You dan't care about me" or "You hate me" now.  It is heart breaking.  I tell her that I am sorry that she feels that way but that it could not be further from the truth and I always reassure her how much I love her.  I know that it is a phase but I really just want it to be over.

For a while my daughter said this a lot when she was four. It was learned from an older friend who in turn learned it from Hannah Montana or something like that. She's still says it every once in a while but now she's more likely to pull this random, you hate me/don't love me sort of thing. She was having a bad day and ex-ed out a picture she had drawn on her door of me and her as smiling heartshaped faces and wrote We HAT Sequoia... next to it. It made me sad to know that she had felt so unloved.

My son is 2 years old and sometimes when i tell him i love him he says "well, i dont love you mum" i havent herd the "i hate you" yet tho.

You know ... oddly enough, I don't remember. They've each said things along those lines a couple times but I forget if it was I hate you, I don't like you, You're a bad mommy ... something like that. I tell them it's OK to be mad at someone but it's not OK to say mean words.

My daughter is only 4, she has said it to me!  I tell her that I don't like it when she uses words that hurt peoples feelings, and she needs to be nice!  Every time she has come to me crying and apologizing for saying it within 5 minutes though! 

if your child doesnt claim to hate you at least five times in their life than you're doing it wrong!

i dont think Georgia has ever said she hates me, but she does like to get over dramamtic with "this is the worst day EVER!!!!" or "You're so mean!!!!" its almost always accompanied by a fit. i just tell her she's more than welcome to feel that way but if she's going to throw a fit she can go feel that way in her room until she's done.

I've been so blessed with some of the easiest children on the planet, but every kid has their days. My oldest twin boys were six (they're now seven) and I put them in time-out for pushing and hitting their little brother. They screamed it at me and told me they were running away. I just raised my eyebrows and offered to help them pack saying whatever would make them happy. After packing a backpack for each they walked out the front door, got down the steps and spun around sobbing running into my arms and apologizing. I forgave them. They clearly didn't mean it and I knew they were having a bad day. It's weird they have those at the same time. Thankfully none of the littler ones have said it... I don't want to get used to it.

My little one has tried this a few times. She doesn't actually say she hates me. She says she does not love me or that she is not grateful for me or that she wishes I would move away. I usually tell her matter of factly, "Ok. You feel how you feel but you still have to go to bed." or whatever she is all upset about having to do. She gets a bit angrier for a minute demanding to know, "Didn't you hear me? Don't you care?" I just tell her, "Nope, it is how you feel and that is not my problem. You still have to go to bed." She is usually all tears and sorries within 5 minutes or so.