Anyone with nearly 3 year old kids...Need your help please?

also wanted to add that at most children do not fully develop a sense of empathy until they are at least four. at 3 he probably has a vauge sense that others feel pain and emotion, but it may still be difficult for him to relate his actions to your emotional state as opposed to your reaction. good to know in this situation.

I just recently started using time outs with my 2  year old. She's almost 2 1/2. I feel maybe it is a little early but I started then because she was spitting at us! Whenever she didn't get her way she would spit at her sisters or me, whoever she disagreed with. After I put her in time out, I ignore whatever she does or says. She usually gets angry and says things like "you're not pretty mommy" or "i don't like you" right when I put her on the spot but I ignore this.

has your husband tried talking to him about it? my daughter is a bit older (6) but she always seemed to pay attention when one of us gets onto her for disrespecting the other.

sometimes hubby will say  something along the lines of  "that's my wife and you will not speak to her that way." he says it's because he words it in such a way that lets her know that she is not the center of the universe.

Thank you everyone for your help... momkey, ive asked his dad about it and he is confused as wht to do aswell, he is upset that he is speaking this way to me...we wil try ignoring him and se how it goes.. Thank you all once again

Gaamy and JasonlovesSara has a point!  If telling him that it hurts your feelings when he says stuff like that is not working (this is how I handle my daughter telling me she hates me, or does not love me) ignoring him and bringing him to his room with the only way he can come out is going to the bathroom, or he talks nicely to you may be the best solution!  How does his Dad feel about how he talks to you?  Maybe if he talks to him about it too! 

But if you don't put a stop to where he is hearing that stuff, it will never stop! 

I agree with basically ignoring it.  He is getting attention from you (albeit negative - it is still negative).  Those are still inappropriate things to say so I would just walk him to his room every time he says it and not say much of anything.

I agree with trying to find out where he's hearing stuff like that and making sure it stops. Also make sure that any TV shows he's watching or other influences (video games he might play or watch someone else play, etc.) don't have violence or disrespectful language in them.

I have mixed feelings on ignoring it at his age. B/c he's so young, I might. But I would also be tempted to (and would definitely do this with my 4-year-olds) calmly say, "It's not OK to talk to me that way" or "It's not OK to say things like that to people." Then add, "You're going to play in your room for a little while. You're free to come out when you are ready to talk kindly to me again."