Procrastination and College Applications

This is a common lament from parents of high school seniors. I often find one of two reasons for the proverbial feet-dragging. First, some students are really fearful and unsure of themselves, feeling ambivalent about leaving home and being out on their own. And they may be too embarrassed to admit it, particularly as they watch all their friends gear up.

Another reason is that they do not really recognize the importance of the applications: They're too busy having senioritis. I suggest you have a nonjudgmental and unbiased talk with your child to try and find out why he or she isn't working on the applications. Look at the reason for the ambivalence and what you can do about it. You may need to consider a local community college to help with an insecurity issue.

If your child is simply not taking it seriously, I find that taking away driving privileges until applications are submitted is a very effective incentive. Under no circumstances should you do these applications for your child. As difficult as it may be, you need to step back and let your child take on the responsibility as a move toward independence. After all, you will not be with him or her at college.