Dear Aunt Flo
Why? First, my menstruation has never been regular ... near regular, but never exact, not for more than two in a row. I have gotten to the point where not only do I keep a calendar-marking system going, I mark when I predict I should start. Day 28 in the middle and about two or three days on either side. This means I am constantly freaking out that I'm gonna start on the first day ... and if I don't, the second. I'm a pads person, so I start wearing them on the first marked day just to be safe. And it's so annoying when that means I waste loads of pads as it's not till five or six days later that I really start. I also stress out that I'm gonna start, extra toilet trips and all my regular stress-out side effects.
Second, I get relatively heavy AFs. Not as heavy as some, but when my friend at school was not able to swim, she was saying that since she's only ON for three days, she'd be back in no time ... I was shocked.
Third, I always take some painkillers the first day of menstruation because I know my cramps will be bad. I'm also super-heavy at night. I mean overflowingly heavy. Yucky. I even (after taking my mum's advice—she had heavy periods, too) resort to stuffing my underwear with toilet paper to absorb overflow for the heavy nights, and have leaked that. I hate it.
I'm not usually a big talker with my mum/others about this stuff (hence here) and worry if/when I have teenage girls how I'm gonna broach it—and if they will be the same way.
I guess I just want some reassurance, some tips or ideas ... sorry, it's kinda a gross spill ...