Is Your Child a Perfectionist?
If you're like many parents, the last thing you'd assume about your kid is that he is a perfectionist. (One look at the bedroom or the handwriting would probably blow any suspicions!) But perfectionism isn't about a kid doing his best or working hard to achieve excellence. In fact, perfectionism can actually block a child's ability to do well. And, of course, perfection is impossible to achieve as well. So how do you tell if you're raising a perfectionist?
Perfectionists are kids who:
Rarely work with others.
Have a hard time making choices.
Always have to be in control.
Arrive late because one more thing had to be done.
Always do last-minute cramming.
Get carried away with the details.
Never seem satisfied with their work.
Constantly busy themselves with something or other.
Frequently criticize others.
Refuse to hear criticism of themselves.
Pay more attention to negative than positive comments.
Check up on other people's work.
Call themselves "stupid" when they do something imperfectly.
If a majority of these teen behaviors sound familiar, it's time to help your kid rethink his priorities and relax a little. As Harriet Braiker said, "Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing."