Nanny 911: Disciplining Without Yelling
If he doesn't listen the first time, then give him a warning and tell him if he doesn't respond, he will lose a privilege! Make sure his hearing is OK, too. I used to always tell the children I was looking after that I was going to get their ears checked to make sure they heard me!
Also remember cleaning up and the like should be made fun. Have a little competition to see who can pick up the most toys. If he doesn't want to play along, tell him that if you pick them all up, they belong to you!
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