No Thank You, Candace! I Don't Spank My Kids ... Ever.
Submitted by casya
Candace Cameron Bure has a new book out and in it she wants you to know that she'd "not afraid of discipline." Inspired by the bible, Candace proudly spanks her kids, and then prays with them.
Admittedly, I am not Christian, so I am not as informed on Christian parenting techniques, but in my house we don't spank. Ever. It's not that I'm afraid to discipline my kids, it's that I'm confounded by a practice as archaic and inhumane as hitting children to teach them wrong from right.
I read the comments section of Candace's article expecting it to be rife with criticism, and people aghast at such practices by someone who seems like an otherwise down-to-earth gal. Instead, most commenters were in agreement and felt that spanking is not the same as hitting and is an appropriate punishment when talking doesn't work.
Spanking is hitting. Just because it's on a child's bottom or without anger doesn't change the fact that its hitting. I don't spank, not because I don't want to hit my kids (I don't), but because I don't want them to grow up thinking its acceptable to use force when talking doesn't work, and essentially that's what spanking does.
I also don't spank because I would rather my children be well-mannered and behaved because they respect me, not because they fear me.
As I said, I'm not Christian, so I'm not sure where in the bible it says that you should spank your kids, but maybe we should file that passage in the same category as the no-shellfish-or-mixed-fabrics rules.
Admittedly, I am not Christian, so I am not as informed on Christian parenting techniques, but in my house we don't spank. Ever. It's not that I'm afraid to discipline my kids, it's that I'm confounded by a practice as archaic and inhumane as hitting children to teach them wrong from right.
I read the comments section of Candace's article expecting it to be rife with criticism, and people aghast at such practices by someone who seems like an otherwise down-to-earth gal. Instead, most commenters were in agreement and felt that spanking is not the same as hitting and is an appropriate punishment when talking doesn't work.
Spanking is hitting. Just because it's on a child's bottom or without anger doesn't change the fact that its hitting. I don't spank, not because I don't want to hit my kids (I don't), but because I don't want them to grow up thinking its acceptable to use force when talking doesn't work, and essentially that's what spanking does.
I also don't spank because I would rather my children be well-mannered and behaved because they respect me, not because they fear me.
As I said, I'm not Christian, so I'm not sure where in the bible it says that you should spank your kids, but maybe we should file that passage in the same category as the no-shellfish-or-mixed-fabrics rules.
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