Discipline for a Toddler With Attitude

Back-talk is a way for children to express their independence and test your parental authority. It generally gets a big reaction from parents, causing them to raise their voices, repeat themselves over and over or show their frustration. This only gives the behavior power and keeps it in place. At age two, your child is just beginning to learn that he is separate from you, and back-talk is a way of proving that. Because he is two and has not developed emotional control over his actions and impulses, it will take some time and some toddler discipline to turn this behavior around, so be patient.

Start out by staying calm and modeling how you expect to be spoken to. Continue to let your son know that you will not allow him to speak to you angrily or rudely. If he tries to give you attitude, say, "Let's try it again." Model the polite way for him to say it, and ask him to repeat it after you. Reflect back the feeling. If he seems angry or disappointed, explain how to say that in words. If he refuses to stop, use a toddler discipline method like a time-out. Remember that this is a teaching opportunity and keep yourself calm throughout.