Family Relationship That's Different With One Kid Than the Others
Submitted by elizabeth1980
I am a mother of three awesome kids, but my middle child and I don't really get along. She is only 6 and honestly I don't feel all that close to her the way I do my oldest and my youngest.
She was born a few months early (26 weeks) so she was in the hospital for three months, and when she came home, it was even harder. On oxygen and tons of medication. At that time I was also diagnosed with systemic lupus so I was sick all the time and couldn't be the kind of mom I was when my oldest was born (lupus can be very painful).
My in-laws also blamed me for having her so early (like I had CAUSED MYSELF to go into labor somehow). My sister-in-law actually said, "That's what you get for wanting another baby." I think she was so mean and hurtful because SHE was trying to get pregnant herself and for me all I had to do was look at my husband and I was pregnant. ...
Anyway, she is a happy, healthy 6-year-old and she's doing very well in kindergarten. But the bond that I have with the other two just isn't there—sometimes I don't even feel like her mother. I know how aweful that must sound but it's how I feel. I just wish I knew how to fix this family relationship problem.
She was born a few months early (26 weeks) so she was in the hospital for three months, and when she came home, it was even harder. On oxygen and tons of medication. At that time I was also diagnosed with systemic lupus so I was sick all the time and couldn't be the kind of mom I was when my oldest was born (lupus can be very painful).
My in-laws also blamed me for having her so early (like I had CAUSED MYSELF to go into labor somehow). My sister-in-law actually said, "That's what you get for wanting another baby." I think she was so mean and hurtful because SHE was trying to get pregnant herself and for me all I had to do was look at my husband and I was pregnant. ...
Anyway, she is a happy, healthy 6-year-old and she's doing very well in kindergarten. But the bond that I have with the other two just isn't there—sometimes I don't even feel like her mother. I know how aweful that must sound but it's how I feel. I just wish I knew how to fix this family relationship problem.
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