Featured: Mother-in-laws

I like my mother in law now.  We use to argue about things all the time but now we are really good with getting along.

My mother in law is sort of nuts. She is a REAL control freak and when she is at our house it is not good. I don't think it is her fault, necessarily...but she really is used to telling everyone exactly what to do and how to do it. As a result, her sons can't really do anything for themselves when she is around...and that carries down to her grandsons. I think this is how she feels needed and important, but it is very unhealthy. I think if I simply knew her as a person and didn't have these ties to her, that I would like her...but when we are together she struggles for power even when I am not struggling along with her. Its sad, really. She is used to being able to spout off and yell and it being over and done with with no repercussions afterward. Unfortunately, I don't operate that way.

I love mine too.  She is very much a hands unless asked kind of person.  She is very giving, understanding and loving too. 

That sounds like MY mom. 

She and FIL both passed away before I met DH. :( I really wish I could have met them! We don't even have any pictures of his father, which makes me sad (we do at least have a few of his mother, who lived 12 years longer).

I am neutral on mine. She is generally a good person and if she were not my mil she would not bother me at all, I would probably like her. She is very nice and generous to everyone. Because she is my mil, that she is superficial and materialistic bothers me a lot. I do not want my child exposed to it. She also has a history of ignoring my wishes with visits and not considering how it affects us.

That is helpful :)

I have a great MIL for the most part.  Her huge downfall is that she has a way of putting you down without trying.  It is just like it comes out of her mouth before she thinks.

She is very supportive of us and loves our children more than life itself.  She is always willing to help out with the kids whenever needed.

Agreed.  My FIL is a great person, but he can be a little negative about minor things sometimes, and I def think that it has something to do with age, and whatever he's had to deal with in the past.  It doesn't bother me, since it doesn't affect me in any way.  He's a great guy, and he does take care of us when we need it most!

i do LOVE my FIL (MIL's ex) though . he and my husband look act and talk exactly alike.

my MIL in a nice person, but a miserable drunk. she's nasty and judgemental. i dont have anything to do with her. hubby and gigi have a relationship w/ her, but i dont. thank god she lives 4 hrs away. she's supposed to be getting herself sober, but we'll see how that goes. if she can keep her shit together for a year then maybe i'll start answering the phone when she calls again.

I love my MIL!  She is very caring and helpful, she does drive me nuts with her old ways, but what MIL doesn't drive you nuts sometimes?

i love my future mother -in - law. shes great to talk to, doesnt try to tell me how to raise my son. i even stay at her place a few nights in a row when i go to Prince Albert for a week.

Mine MIL is okay for the most part. It took a long while for us to get used to each other. At first she hated me and I didn't care for her. Then we both played nice only for my DH sake. Then she liked me because I gave her a grandchild. I'm okay with her I guess especially because she has been a big help with my DS. We are no longer enemies but far away from being the best of friends.

Love mine as well. she's a strong, independent, fun-loving woman and my daughters love her so much. 

I do not trust her and she will not be in my daughter's life and everyone is ok with it. She has a grocery list of medical problems and is on many many medications for them. When she takes her pills correctly and on time, she's bearable. But she usually overdoses on them and gets very violent and just plain old mean. My husband is a cop and she has told him to 'go die in the streets where you belong' which is something you do not say to a) your son or b) a cop where that is a very real possibility. She lies and cheats her way into getting her way. There really has not been one time we have spent together where she has not lied to me about something. Everything always has to be about her and she ruins relationships with everyone; her son, daughter, husband, and parents. She doesn't realize that she's pushing everyone away and no one wants to be with her anymore.

I really do love my MIL. Quinn's middle name is Elise, which is basically after her because her name is Alice. She's really the best. She caring and sweet and she inspires me to be that much better. 

My MIL is passive aggressive, and tends to put her foot in her mouth.  Over the past few years, it's been bugging me more and more to the point where I dread seeing her.  She is extremely judgmental too, and comes across as catty, but she says things with a smile on her face, then laughs, as if though youre supposed to believe that she wasn't really trying to say something mean.  She's a nice enough person to me, and she loves my kids, but I just really hate that she is like that.  Those are exactly the kind of people I don't like being around.  I don't like gossip about the people that you know or are your friends and family, so when I hear her make commentary, it just makes me wonder what she's saying about me.  When were together, I find myself being cordial and friendly, but I don't try to talk too much and avoid asking about family.  Examples of things she's said:

"I knew you were pregnant because your butt got big".  WTH???

"Oh, I can see a few grays in your hair from here.  Haha (laughs so that it doesn't sound so bad)".  Really, MIL, cause I'm not the one dying my hair every 3 weeks.  It's called stress, and it probably comes from you.

"Meggie (her niece) is having trouble having a baby, and they've been trying for a while.  Don't say anything though".  No, MIL, YOU shouldn't say anything about this to ANYONE!

"OMG, she must be a prostitute wearing shorts that don't fit".  We're at a basketball game, MIL, she may be a part of the cheerleaders team.  Sheesh.

"Oh, don't worry, your kids will eat their veggies", referring to why my 3 yr old daughter won't eat veggies, but how her daughter (when she has kids of her own) will.  Lily is 3, she says no to veggies, it sounds about right, and if I'm not mistaken she was eating them when she was younger then decided not to have anymore.  But we'll see what happens...

See, it's stuff like that, that I just can't stand.  I wish that she knew what she was really like, then change, but she wouldn't be a MIL if she was any different, right?