If you have 3 or more kids
If you have 3 or more kids, how was the transition from 2 to 3? I've mentioned before that I would love a third but DH isn't sure if we have the time or energy for another. I know it's impossible to predict what it would be like since there are so many variables (e.g. easygoing versus colicky baby, etc.) but what was the transition like for you? At this rate, our boys would be at least 4.5-5 when Baby #3 would be born.
Our transition was a little rough. Although Emma was a super calm, easy going baby, the other two were 2 and 3 and running all over the place. It was, and still is, hard to confine all three kids and I often feel as if I get nothing done. Now that they are almost 5, 3 and 14 months, the older two are able to entertain and help me take care of Emma but it is still very challenging, especially things like taking them all to the mall, grocery shopping or to the playground. However, in your situation, I think you may find it much easier because your boys will be in school and you'll be able to focus on the baby.
I foundthe transition from 2 to 3 to be pretty much what I expected...chaos (and our third is only 3 weeks old!) I thinkmy feelings come from still getting into apattern ith our newborn but our kids are roughly all 4 years apart and it is still hard! I think it is because we are now out numbeed too and our olest 2 know this and take advantage of it when they can! With a little time, I feel we will be in control again and have some sanity back as well!
I went from 2 to 4 with one pregnancy, so it's a little bit different, but still a transition. That was probably the most difficult of them all. All of the sleepless nights and constant feedings made it a more trying time because of having to keep two other children fed, bathed, and happy. The difficulty of the transition faded after the three-month mark. Once we got into a routine everything was fine with only random bad days. It was a real lesson for all of us about patience and understanding. My four-year-old at the time really matured, began to feel empathy, and offered to help me on a daily basis.
my mom said 2 to 3 was hard b/c she couldnt take her eyes off my sisters for even a second or they'd have my bottle, have cut my hair, pulled the front of the crib down and there was no "you take this one, i'll take that one." if they did that there was still one left! but we were all very young. my sisters are 18 mos apart and i'm only 2 yrs younger than the previous child so we were barely 4, 2 and new born.
she does however maintain that after 3 it's all logistics.
I think your boys being 4.5-5 when/if another baby comes along will hopefully make it easier. Technically when we went from 2 to 3 (Hannah (my stepdaughter), Kendall and Addison) it was easy. Hannah was 10.5 and Kendall, he was 20-ish months. However this time around has been hard! We had twin girls the end of August to add to our brood of Hannah (13), Kendall (4) and Addison (2). Hannah and Kendall have adjusted amazingly well. Hannah loves her little sisters and Kendall thinks he's their little protector, which is adorable. My son, Addison, is having a difficult time. He's always been a huge mama's boy while Kendall is a daddy's boy so we've never had conflict with anything. Now that Addison has to share me he's not happy. I quite often hear him tell the girls "Ella and Chloe go back to where you came from. She's my mummy! Not yours!" 7 weeks into it he's gotten better but he wants to be a baby now. He's gotten back on his pacifier (almost got rid of it) he wants a bottle, he likes to lay on the floor and cry saying he's a baby and demands he sleeps in a cot. I've only caved into the pacifier. I've just learned I need to give him more attention and loads of just him and I cuddle time or I take just him and I out for a little bit (sometimes Kendall comes along too) and it's helped.