FEATURED: Your daily gripe
I'm creating this post so that anyone who has a gripe/complain/get-it-off-their-chest feeling, can post it, right here right now. Im hoping that in doing this that we can all share experiences, lend a listening ear, or even advise maybe joke about the situation.
Okay peeps, so I have MIL issues. And because I love my hubby, and don't want him to be upset with me or feel guilty about disliking the things that his mother does, I have decided that it's best to vent out frustrations with you guys here since, let's be honest, you can relate the most! For the past few years, I've been getting a lack of respect from his mother. I don't know where it stems from, maybe because I am his #1, or maybe because I am on the other end of the spectrum in regards to the kind of person that we both are (she's a "lady of leisure, loves labels, gets weekly hair/nails appointents" and I am a "relaxed, put on makeup only when needed, cut a coupon to save some money" kinda gal). I'm also Puerto Rican (born in NYC, though) and she's caucasian. My thing is that when I say, "No" or even, "No thank you", its like she doesnt hear what I am saying. but it feels more like "I don't give a squat". When I try to verbally discipline my kids, she's chiming in the background. She talks to me like someone who knows it all when clearly she does not (ex. "well, back in my day..." which many of you have heard. Things have changed since back of your day, lady, get with the program). She wants to come to our house and fix stuff, and she just doesn't know when to stop. Now, I put the kabosh on a lot of things because I don't go to her house to do home improvements, it's not my place. But that's just one of many things. I'm already in a position in which, when I get agitated after saying "no" more than once, I can come across as a little bitchy. I try not to, but in the end, I feel like she's going to think I'm being a jerk anyway. When she senses my anger, she just walks away while talking, and at that point I feel like "thank god she left the room, cause I was going to fling Liam's poop diaper at her so that she can go away."
How do you all deal with someone who is overbearing, or steps on your toes more often than you like? My hubby even suggested that we do family counseling, and they (his parents) felt like they don't need to. What gives? If I say anything, I'll be a total villain (likely, I'm a villain just for being a DIL, LOL!) Help!