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Well, I did it! I stood up for myself and I left my abusive husband of 4 years, we have a 3 year old son and after so many years of his abusive and controlling and just down right making me feel lower than dirt I packed my bags and i left with our 3 year old son, and he was starting to stalk me and broke into my facebook page and etc I had to go down to the court house and file a restraining order against him, and the courts found that he was not safe to be around our son so their is no visitation for a year. but after filing my divorce finally and winning full custody of my son it's been one big emotional roller coaster and its getting harder and harder, I have my family for support and friends don't get me wrong but i'm young i'm 23 years old and no job and living with my aunt for right now she is very glad for the things that i am doing to better myself for my son but it just seems to get harder as the days go by, I don't plan to return to my ex at all but i just need to know if there is any other single mothers who are going through this or similar and need advice on what i can do, I know my friends are saying be strong for your son he needs you, but for the past 4 years of being weak how can i regain my strength?
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I forgot Church. That is a great outlet! As long as you find one that you like and feel at home.
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I commend you so much on standing up for yourself (and your son too) and getting out of an abusive relationship. It's not going to be easy for you and it's going to take awhile for you to start feeling ok again, so I'm not going to sugarcoat it. You have to understand it will take awhile. you have to get to a point where your self esteem is so high that if your husband ever wanted you back, you'd laugh in his face. you can do it though, so many single mothers have. You keep getting stronger every day but you will have days where you just want to break down and cry. That's ok too. The BEST idea I have, which really helped me in times of need, is to go to college. If you don't have a job, you could probably get a full ride to a community college. Or at least try to get a job if someone will help you with your son. these are things that will build your self esteem back up. They really do help. I wish you all the best =)
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I'm sorry it's been a tough month but glad you found your way here. Hope things start to go more smoothly for you soon!
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Oh thank you so much i need someone to talk to about this I don't know what to do anymore I have gone through so much in the past month it just fustrates me where I'm snapping at my son....I'm on medication for my depression and anxiety issues but it just seems that i need like another moms advice for this,
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You are a strong person for doing that. And you did the best thing for your son. Im also a single mother,and have also been through some tough times. You can PM me if you wish to talk hun.
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Quoting jasonlovessara
You are an AMAZING person! I am so proud of you for being able to stand up for both you and your son.
I agree with this! I haven't been a single mother so I can't give you any "been there done that" advice, but I'm proud of you for what you've done for yourself and your son!
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Thank-You so much! I never thought i could do and I broke the chain of being with an abusive husband.
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You are an AMAZING person! I am so proud of you for being able to stand up for both you and your son.
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Every day that you are away from the abuse you are getting stronger! Look around and see if there are programs that help single mothers in your area! Check with the department of human services, welfare, churches, etc...... Habitat for humanity here help house people! I'm just suggesting this kind of thing because if you have your own place and taking care of things yourself (even with government assistance) you can actually see and feel stronger! It's nothing against your Aunt, it's just what could help you feel more in control! Or if its possible, see if you can starts college classes While staying with your Aunt! That could help too! And it would be easier to take the classes while living with your Aunt! Good Luck!
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