Is it to early to Diagnose you're toddler for a disorder?

My husband and I have asked eachother the same question about anything traumatic happening with dirt & we cannot think of anything. But from the time he started forming sentences he would ask if things were clean before I dressed him or if the towel he was drying his hand on was clean, or the bowl, or cup he was eating/drinking out of was clean. I am hoping it is just a phase & this spring/summer I plan on getting him outside a lot more to enjoy getting dirty and running around like boys should do :)

As a child though, I had issues with germs and washed my hands until they were raw/cracked and sometimes bloody :( I just hope I somehow didn't pass that on to him.

I can't think of what could be traumatic enough, but did something happen that made him uncomfortable with dirty hands? 

I understand your family saying that!  It might help, I would introduce him to sand/dirt slowly so he can see that it can be fun to get dirty!  Personally, I would do one of those sand and water tables! 

That is actually a milestone according to my pediatricians office!  My pediatrician has me take little quizzes about the things my daughter does!  And lining things up side by side is one of those milestones they have you watch for!  And lining them up by size, or color or both are a few others!  Some of the milestones sound silly, but the pediatrician told me that is one way they watch for signs of Autism!  My daughter is four years old, she does things that my nieces 5 year old daughter does not have the patience to do!  My nieces daughter has been diagnosed with Autism!  Around here too, they won't diagnose those as Autism, or anything until they turn 5! 

I have recently started to wonder about my sons behavior as well.  He constantly has to make sure his hands are clean, sometimes I will notice he isn't eating a snack/dinner and ask why and he will just make a sad face and say he can't. I have realized that he won't eat certain foods that could leave his hands dirty. I've also seen him stop using his hands for snacks and such because of the crumbs and things that could get on him. I have seem him cry (really hard) over donut filling getting on his hand, we were in the car and he kept screaming that we had to "help" him. He will demand that I give him wipes to clean his hands and face and if I don't he'll cry.My family members keep saying that I should let him play outside when spring comes and get dirty like all little boys do, but I am starting to think that it isn't that simple.

It really is hard as a parent to be objective...kudos on having an open mind! Does he do this with other objects? When does he do it? ALL day? during play time? Can you eventually pick them up? Are others "allowed" to touch them?  I think your concern is legit, however, I think you should consider some other things.  First off, does this cause any inconvenience for the family? For example, when it's time to go, does he constantly worry about what is going on with the little cars?  Is it the first thing he goes to when you get back home? What do you mean "freak out"? ....For anyone on here to assume that he is ok, they ought to know more information...my advise, talk to a child psychologist.  Yes, your ped is a good first start, but if YOU as MOM have a "feeling"...don't ignore your instinct...and a child psychologist can give you the best answers. 

Good LUCK! :)

I agree with the pp's. It's a normal stage that a lot of kids go through. I would be concerned if you see more red flags, if it starts to really interfere with daily life and you see it in multiple areas.

Like pp said... it is very normal.  I would not be concerned for just this.  If there are other "flags" that concern you then I would bring it up with his pedi just to ease your mind.

Good luck

My daughter (4) does this too. She lines things up and sorts and organizes. She builds "walls" out of her toys. It looks OCD but she is just learning sizes and colours and shapes. I think its pretty normal. Everyone has something they liek a certain way, that doesn't mean they are OCD. Don't worry about it. :)