Relationships: Dealing With Loneliness After Divorce

The most important thing for you to understand is the difference between feeling lonely and being alone. You can feel lonely in a crowd, and you can be completely happy being alone. Don't equate time spent on your own as time spent feeling lonely. Pay attention to how you feel instead of how many people are around you.

Make a point of doing things when you are alone that you truly enjoy. Find the fun whenever possible, and notice when you are enjoying yourself. When you feel fulfilled by what you are doing or thinking, say to yourself, "Right this minute, I am alone and I am happy."

We all feel lonely at times, and sometimes the best way to cope is to simply acknowledge how you feel. Don't use loneliness as your cue to create stories about how you are likely to always feel this way if you are on your own. Instead, see loneliness as a common emotion that everyone experiences, and focus on finding fulfilling ways to spend time alone.