Relationships: Returning to the Dating Scene

There tends to be a gender difference in the way men and women approach dating. Men generally want to have fun, have sex and try out the relationship before deciding the future. Women generally focus on the future and are more security-minded when dating. These two polar approaches result in misunderstanding: Many women despair of finding a commitment-minded man, and men complain that women are too serious, too focused on evaluating and catching them, and that dating isn't fun. Men and women should be clear and honest with each other about whether they are ready and looking for a committed relationship or if they just want to have fun in a recreational relationship. If your goal for dating doesn't match someone, then move on. Don't be afraid to state what you are looking for. If someone rejects you, they are doing you the favor of deciding for you that there is no future together, which frees you up to find someone more aligned with you.