Couples Therapy: What to Expect
Relationship advice: First off, congratulations! You have decided to go to couples therapy. That's a big step. Secondly, don't be nervous. There's nothing to be afraid of! Here is an idea of what to expect in couples therapy:
- After he tells you a little bit about himself, the therapist will ask you relationship questions and try to get an idea of what sort of relationship advice you need.
- The therapist will likely want you to give him a family history including background about your childhoods and educational/professional backgrounds.
- Don't be surprised if the therapist asks to speak to you and your husband separately—especially if he senses that you're not comfortable speaking frankly in front of each other.
- The therapist will probably make suggestions about new ways of communicating with each other and meeting each other's needs.
- You'll likely talk about your goals for therapy. Be honest about your relationship questions and concerns. He is there to help you!
- Don't worry—the therapist isn't a judge—he won't declare one of you "right" and the other "wrong."
- You might be sent home with "homework"—things to work on during the week before your next session.
- Don't be shy about speaking up. The therapist is working for you and your husband, but don't expect the therapist to do all of the hard work for you! For couples therapy to be successful, you both have to take a proactive approach.