Relationship Problems: Getting Over an Affair
Go to Therapy: To get to the root of your relationship problems, you should probably talk things out with a therapist. You might need to vent on your own, but couples therapy is also a good idea.
Ask Questions: Your mind is reeling with relationship questions—where did the affair take place? How long did it last? How did they meet? Ask all of the questions you need to ask.
Spend Time Together: It will be hard to forgive your husband, but if you are working on surviving an affair, it's important that you two re-connect. Give yourself space and time doing something together. And try to take a break from talking about the affair.
Turn to Friends and Family: You'll need support during this difficult time. Friends and family can help you cope with all of the confusing feelings and relationship questions you are having.
Get a Verbal Agreement—or even a written agreement from your husband that he has ended the affair and an assurance that he will be faithful.
Forgive: Getting over an affair is impossible until you forgive. But don't forgive until you're truly ready to trust your husband again.