Relationship Problems: Keep Up the Romance After Kids

Relationship Question: My husband and I are so busy with the kids. We barely have time for each other. How do we keep up the romance?

We know you're busy (who isn't?), but if you want to have a healthy relationship, it's probably time to set aside the excuses! Romance doesn't have to end just because you're now parents. Granted, it might take a little more effort to find time for each other, but it can be done—and it's worth the effort. So many relationship problems and relationship issues arise because parents devote all of their attention to their kids—and forget to leave time and energy for their spouse.

Here's some relationship advice that can help:

• Take care of yourself. Go to the gym. Make an effort to get out of your mom jeans and look your best. Your spouse will appreciate the effort—and chances are that you'l feel better about yourself!
  
• Make a date night: Even if you don't have the money for a sitter, you can have a special night at home. Enjoy dinner with romantic music by candle light. And try not to talk about the kids!
  
• Pull out your prettiest lingerie (or buy yourself some)—and actually making a pact to wear it at least a couple of nights a week.
  
• if you want a healthy relationship, give yourself some adult space. Try to keep your bedroom as romantic and kid-free as possible. Diaper pails are not exactly aphrodisiacs!
  
• Don't take each other for granted: Say "thank you" when your husband cooks you dinner or folds the laundry.
  
• Smile: It will put you both in a better mood for romance!
  
• If finances allow, plan a romantic getaway without the kids!