Get Out of an Abusive Relationship

Safety planning for someone involved in an abusive relationship is a necessary and important step. Planning can begin while you're still with your abuser or after the relationship has ended. While still in an abusive relationship, your safety is of primary importance.

Keep these tips in mind when planning to leave an abusive partner:

Before you leave:

• Get help to make a plan.
• Create a code word.
• Document your abuse.
• Pack an emergency bag.

Document your abuse by:

• keeping a journal
• seeing a doctor
• filing a police report
• taking photos

Pack an emergency bag with:

• money
• your checkbook and bank info
• credit cards
• identification for you and your children
• car keys
• court papers
• medications

After you leave:

• Tell family and friends.
• Get an order of protection.
• Put 911 on speed dial.
• Change your cell phone number.
• Change your daily routine.
• Avoid being alone.
• Find a safe place to stay.

To find out more about creating a safety plan, visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline's website or call 800-799-SAFE.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline Assists callers with finding local shelters, legal assistance, volunteering, advocacy, legislative issues and support groups. Contact the center at 800-799-7233 or 800-787-3224 (TTY for the deaf) or visit www.thehotline.org.

You can also contact Futures Without Violence at 415-252-8900 or visit their website for more information.