Self-Esteem After Divorce

Embrace the idea that you are in a continual process of discovery. The biggest challenge in creating a new life after divorce is to come to terms with who you have been in the past and use what you're learning in order to move forward with confidence, optimism and a sense of purpose.

Your first step is to redefine your idea of what your marriage gave you. Instead of focusing on the pain and disappointment, look at what you've learned about yourself and what you want in life. Remember that you can feel grateful for what you've gained even while recovering from your losses. In fact, the tipping point is when you recognize that what you've learned is more powerful than what you've lost.

Stay present. It's tempting to live in the past and focus on regrets, but this is your time to pay attention to the present and the lessons you can learn each day. Take care of yourself, and explore your interests. Take time to notice the things that delight, inspire, and soothe you. Play with new possibilities. You'll find yourself developing both a sense of peace about your past and a new excitement about your future.