Sex Advice: Having Sex With an Ex

There's no such animal as a casual sex or a casual hook-up with an ex. The word casual implies absence of strong emotional connections, yet there's nobody with whom you're likely to have more emotional baggage than an ex. Should you give in to your urges to have sex, you'll be putting your feelings on the line every time and tearing open wounds that you should be trying to heal. My advice is to leave that door closed.

The belief that we can have benign sex with an ex amounts to a convenient lie that we tell ourselves to quell the grief of saying goodbye. Ultimately, it's a way to avoid letting go. Here's my advice: if you're looking for sex and a genuinely casual hook-up, there are far better ways to get one. So if you keep leaning toward your ex, face up to what is probably driving you: a longing to rekindle the relationship without having to admit the truth to yourself or your partner.