How to Spice Up Your Sex Life After You've Had a Baby
Let's talk about sex, baby. Now that there's a baby in your house, chances are spicing up your sex life is the last thing on your mind. Besides having a wailing newborn who needs your attention 24/7, your body has also been through quite a lot and you may be experiencing some major turnoffs including a sore perineum, heavy postpartum bleeding and sleep deprivation. No wonder your sex drive is at a 0.
But luckily it won't stay that way forever. There will come a day in the not-too-distant future where you'll want to spice up your sex life again! A University of Wisconsin study of 570 new parents found that it generally takes bottle-feeding parents about seven weeks and breastfeeding parents about eight weeks to start having sex after having a baby. Only 17% of couples reported having sexual intercourse during the month after childbirth. While there's typically some sexual contact during the postpartum period—65% of women in the University of Wisconsin study reported engaging in some form of sexual touching and 34% reported having performed oral sex on their partner during the first few weeks after the birth—many women choose to hold off on having sex after having a baby until after their six-week checkup because of fatigue, postpartum discomfort, or because they're waiting to get the go-ahead from their doctor or midwife that their bodies are healing properly after the delivery.
It takes time to process everything your body has been through from pregnancy and giving birth, and it's hard not to see your body in a different light. While you may be concerned that your partner may not find you as attractive because you're a few pounds heavier than you were nine months ago or because there's a cesarean scar on your tummy, that's not usually the case. Of course, some new dads do go through a period of adjustment after the birth. Now their wives' bodies aren't just objects for pleasure; they're biological factories capable of producing human beings! Before you know it, you'll both be on the same page and ready to spice up your sex life. Then you'll just have to squeeze it in before your baby wakes up looking for food.
Here are some tips to help make your first post-baby rendezvous as stress-free as possible: