Spice Up Your Sex Life: Improving Male Sex Drive
Since we've had kids, my husband seems less interested in sex. How can I help him recover his lost sex drive?
First of all, explain to your husband that he is not alone. A large American study by Laumann et al. (1999) found that 14 percent of the men studied had suffered from lowered sexual desire in the year prior to the study. So lowered sex drive isn't a terribly uncommon thing among men. Next, try having a discussion with your man and let him know that there can be many factors contributing to his lower sex drive. Some life circumstances that can contribute to a low sex drive in men include: medications (especially antidepressants and antihypertensives), drops in testosterone levels, alcohol consumption, stress and lack of sleep. The latter two of which come hand-in-hand with parenthood!
When you do broach the subject with your partner, you'll want to do your best not to judge him, place blame or question his manhood. It is a very sensitive subject for many men and you'll want to avoid offending him or having him put up a wall about discussing the issue. Work with your husband to remove any barriers that are affecting his sex life. Tell him you love him and that you want to spice up your sex life and that you'll support him however you can. If the problem persists (and if it remains a problem for him and/or you) consult with a doctor or sex therapist who specializing in improving male sex drive and spicing up sex. Talking to a professional can take the pressure off of you and it will very likely help you to identify the root of the issue and possible solutions. Good luck!