Spice Up Your Sex Life by Trying New Things in Bed

When people are in a long-term relationship, the sexual spark can sometimes (OK, almost always) start to dim. Toss a couple of kids in the mix and you're lucky if you have the energy to brush your teeth, forget about doing the deed! Sometimes trying new things in bed can bring back the spark. So if you're looking to spice up your sex life and get your partner to break out of his sexual shell, try these steps: Communicate! Ask your partner what he is comfortable doing sexually. Ask what turns him on. And then ask how he thinks you could spice up your sex life. Guys love to feel like it was all their idea! Share!Tell your partner what you'd like to try in bed. Share your fantasies. (Except for the one that involves his brother, you might want to keep that one to yourself.) Don't be judgey! If your partner divulges a fantasy you think is a little out there, don't judge. You wouldn't want him to judge your fetish for edible body paint! See a professional! If you feel like you're in a rut, you may want to seek the help of a sex therapist or buy a few books on how to spice up your sex life. Sometimes expert sex advice can make things less awkward and give you great aha (or, oooohhh, aaahhh) moments! Take it Slow! Give it time. You can't expect to go from the missionary position to wildcat sex overnight! Often people are scared to try new things, so you might have to gently nudge your partner along. It is important to respect his boundaries. If he really doesn't want to try something, you can't force him. He might just need to feel more comfortable with things before he'll be the sexual dynamo you want him to be.