Finding Life Balance as Parents: Is it Possible?
Submitted by pixieexo
I haven't been working since January when my boyfriend and I (I'm 19, he's 24) found out we were pregnant. In April, we decided it was time to crack down and start saving our money!
He's really great with saving, and even takes on extra shifts at work when he can! I'm not saying I want to go out and waste money, but it just seems like we never do anything together anymore. He goes out with his friends once in a while to get away, but I don't do anything because all my friends still hang out in bars every night.
I've tried suggesting things to do together that cost little or no money, i.e., walks on the beach, renting a movie, etc., but he's either too tired when he gets home from work or says he doesn't understand why we need to spend SO much time together. He thinks that because we live together and we see each other every day, it's enough. It's SO not enough for me! I need some life balance!
Although he's kind of sounding like a jerk in this post, he doesn't say or do these things in a mean way, I think he's just a little confused like I am, and maybe a little overwhelmed with trying to do so much in such little time.
I know there's obviously a great deal of sacrifice that comes along with pregnancy and motherhood, it just feels as though our relationship has fallen off the map. I'm afraid that if we continue like this any longer, we will grow apart beyond repair. I want us to be a family, not just two people raising a child.
What can i do to help bring the balance in our life and in our relationship back, in the midst of being pregnant?