7 months pregnant and a troubled relationship
I am turning to you for advice. I am 22 years old, 7 months pregnant and my daughters father broke up with me and is now doing what ever and whoever he pleases. I don't want to make him out to be this horrible person becuase he is not. Him and I were dating for 3 and 1/2 years. I found out I was pregnant in September and everything was going perfect, he went to every appointment with me, was there for me and everything. Then January comes and he starts talking to an old friend (girl) and in mid January he says to me that he loves me but isn't in love with me and is feeling forced to be in a relationship with me. I can understand how he feels but his timing is horrible. So we fought for weeks then I left for a weekend to clear my head and once I can back he was nice, he was caring, he was himself. Then the fighting started again and here I am all alone in a doctors office surrounded but happy couples glowing over their little one's I was so happy for them. I looked down at my belly and apologized to my daughter and started crying. After that I didn't talk to him for several days. Then we went on a vacation that we couldn't back out of. Left on Valentine's day and it was one of the worst days of my life we fought all day until we go to our destination. That week was so nice, no fighting just us being us. Then we cam home and had 1 good day. I came to find out that he was dating the girl he was talking to for about 4 weeks and he was all upset becuase she hadn't talked to him in a week. She broke up with him and he didn't even know it. Then he took his feelings out on me saying I was fat, needed to change my hair style more, needed to do more things for him. And then proceded to tell me he had sex with one of the girls he worked with just a few days ago. (keep in mind we live together in a 2 bedroom apt) So how am I supposed to feel? I want to yell at these girls and call them horrible things but it's not just there fault it's his too. Now he is back to being nice so he can still have sex with someone and have me do the normal things. He thinks if we are civil and nice to eachother we can raise our daughter under the same roof. I grew up with a mother and a father that yelled at eachother all the time. I don't want to do that with my child. I want her to see that mommy and daddy love eachother all the time not just when we are all together. I made him promise he will not bring those girls around our daughter and introduce them to her. I don't want her exposed to the girld that wrecked my pregnancy. I have been so good about keeping my stress down that it surprises me how well I am handling all of this. I just need some advice on whether or not I should stay or try and fix what seems to be so broken. I want a family becuase neither him or myself had 1 growing up it was always 1 parent or the other and not both. I am in need of some words of encouragment.