Sister-in-Law Drama AGAIN...
So, for anyone who remembers my previous post about my brother's wife and how much she creates drama in my family. I had made the decision that I was still going to allow her to host my baby shower. I love my brother's wife. She is usually a sweet girl, but we she is mean, DAMN she is freaking MEAN! I am still having a hard time allowing her to host my baby shower and here are my reasons.
1.) We are having the baby shower 3 months before my due date. Kind of ridiculous in my opinion and way too early. But the reason why SHE wanted it so early was because her dad would be coming to town the following week and she wanted for my dad, who is coming from out of town, to be here at the same time as her dad and she wants them to meet. I felt that that was kind of selfish of her, but it wasn't a huge deal to me so I agreed to that.
2.) She is pushing for me to play 10 games at the baby shower and give the winners dollar store prizes. I'm sorry for those of you who are planning on playing that many games, but to me that is WAY to many, and dollar store prizes are super tacky and I am not cool with that. When I told her I only wanted 3 games to be played, she kind of rolled her eyes and just said, "you're baby shower is going to be really short." But we aren't serving lunch to the guests so I don't really want it to be long anyways.
3.) She has pushed for me to play games that I don't want to play. I'm not down with the whole measuring of the belly thing. I know it's a classic, but I would feel uncomfortable and I don't want to play it at all. But she has continuously pushed and pressured me to play that stupid game.
4.) She harbors grudges against 3 of my close family members whom I love and adore completely. She hates them so much that she won't even talk to them at family gatherings. This really bothers me because I want them there at MY baby shower and I don't want them to be uncomfortable in her home.
5.) Here is my NEW reason for not wanting it there anymore. SHE WAS A B*TCH TO ME LAST NIGHT! I went over to visit her and was discussing plans for my wedding next month. I was mentioning to her that I am glad that her kids already call my fiance "Uncle" because now he will legally be their uncle. Her response was "yeah, even if you guys get divorced he will always be family because you are having a kid together." I mean, why would you say something like that to someone who is about to get married. ( My fiance and I have been living together since way before I got preggo and were planning on getting married anyways, so it's not like we are doing it just cuz I'm preggo and she knows that.) I told he that I felt hurt by her saying that and her response was, "well you'll just have to get over, people will make comments that you don't like."
After that I've tried to call her and now she isn't answering my calls. So I'm just at the point with her where I don't really want to be around her, let alone have her at my wedding or hosting my baby shower.
Having the baby shower somewhere else isn't too big a deal, but I know that she will take it very personally and harbor a grudge against me if I have it moved. And this girl will hold a grudge for YEARS... I'm very upset with her because even if I try to work things out with her, she becomes very defensive and acts like she has done nothing wrong. She is 100% Puerto Rican, and I'm not sure if it's a cultural thing for her to not apologize or try to mend relationships, or if it's just a personal thing with her.
How do I move the baby shower to someone else's house without pissing her off??