Featured: Husband on board?

Thank you everyone for you suggestions and sharing your stories with me as well. I am 24wks now and feeling sooo much better, besides back pains. We recently found out that we are having another boy! I had a talk with my husband shortly after posting this & told him how I felt. Afterward I saw him trying to be more supportive & now that he knows what we are having he is more excited. He even helped me pick out paint for the nursery & paint it yesterday. :) I know he is still a little nervous, but he is also excited. I can see it in his eyes now when he is looking at baby things. He can also feel the baby moving all the time now, I think the first time he felt him was the turning point... Thanks again!

I'm sorry; that would be tough. :( I've definitely heard what pp's mentioned, that sometimes for men they feel disconnected from a pregnancy until they see the baby, or feel it move, or sometimes till the baby is born. I hope your husband comes around sooner rather than later, so he can give you the support you deserve.

I know how you feel.  My partner and I got pregnant, it was planned since we are raising his 2 1/2 year old son. (The birthmother passed away a few weeks after his son was born).  

I am now 36 weeks pregnant and last week I ended up in the triage unit at the hospital for complications....the worst one, he decided to go over to his mothers place and mow her lawn instead of being with me.   I felt very alone.  After I was home, and knowing that our daughter is okay...I called him and told him how I felt.  This finally gave him a kick of reality that he needed.   I guess it was a hide technique he was using because of everything that happened with his sons mother but he finally realized that we are together, and that this is his child too....everything since talking to him has changed.  He has been at my side since everything happened last week and he is now getting into the fact that she will be here soon.   Hope it works out for you.   Sometimes it takes something that i went through to get the men on board...it might even take till the time your child comes into the world that he will bond and it will all change.   Still take the time to sit him down and talk to him.   Remind him that he is a great father to your kids.  good luck.

I have to admit, I went through something similar to this with my most recent pregnancy. Our first was unplanned, so both of us were just dealing with the shock and obviously were forced to accept it. Rather with our second pregnancy, which WAS planned, we were both excited talking about it, and then once I got pregnant I was like oh crap I'm pregnant. He kinda checked out as well, and didn't get into it until our first ultrasound. Once we found out it was a boy and we could call him by name then hgot more attached, as well as myself. I think it's normal, especially for guys. Women have no choice but to embrace it, and of course we get to feel them so we naturally bond quicker. I know it's depressing, but he will get attached, it's just a matter of time :)

I think a lot of men are like this. My husband is a great father, but isn't the most involved when it comes to the pregnancy and this is our fourth baby. It's just hard for a lot of men to relate. And remember, this is his first baby. I'm sure he'll get more excited soon, especially the bigger you get and when he can feel baby move.

I am sorry that he is not as excited.

I do agree that sometimes it can be overwhelming for men.

My husband had a rough time with my pregnancy because I was "high risk" .  I don't think it really became real to him until after my kids were born.  He was afraid of something happening to the babies and was afraid to get "attached"

Have you talked to him about how this bothers you?