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I'm 12 weeks pregnant (still very early I know) and im already showing BIG TIME.

 

I'm only 19 years old,and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for all of about five months, but i have known him forever. Everything was great i had a job a really good job he had a job i have lived on my own sense i was 18 and used to doing everything on my own. very independent until about 3 months ago the worst thing happened i lost my job ;( i got laid off and then got denied unemployment and been had a very hard time finding a job then a month later my boyfriend quit his job for a good reason but it wasnt the best time. I was very depressed for eveyrthing going on i was drinking and partying alot being a stupid teenager and found out i was prego on dec 9 i had no signs i was prego untill that day. I had just got home from the store and was putting things away when all of a sudden my nipples were burning really bad! i called my mom immediately becuase i know my body and tht was not normal and told her about you told me thts what her's did when she was prego with me so i left and got a test and thts when i found out i was pregnant i felt like an idiot :/ becuase ive been drinking i smoked cigs and i was just so mad at myself . i quit everything once i found out & is now taking care of me and my baby its just scary and in the back of my mind is my baby gonna be okay. I have only been to one baby appointment and our second one is this monday we get to hear the baby's heartbeat(: i have been honest with my doctors about my drinking to and they havent said to much i think once i ge an ultrasound and see my baby is okay ill feel much better. I also just lost my appartment and tried living with my mom but couldnt because her and her boyfriend just wanna drink and fight all the time not a good place for me or my baby. so i am now living with my boyfriend and his family but im just so stressed out with eveything going on i just need people to talk to who can give me advice and who knows what im going threw im just scared and i have support from my boyfriend but he is not a girl so he doesnt not completely understand :(

 

Last Edited: 01/21/2013 - 02:38 AM | Replies
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Thank you lauraleigh82 (:

I'm doing alot better as the days go by. Thank you for the advice i take it all in and its great to see how many people care and wanna help tht is an amazing thing!!

 

01/21/2013 - 02:38 AM
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awww I wish I could just give you a hug sweetie! The #1 quality of an amazing mom is selflessness. You have that quality so the rest will come naturally! Just breathe and concentrate on one day at a time. Dont beat yourself up. We are all our own worst judges. Concentrate on being healthy and happy. Stay positive and believe in yourself. 

01/17/2013 - 08:07 PM
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Thank you jasonlovessara (:

01/10/2013 - 05:31 PM
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I am sorry you are so stressed right now. 

I would not be worried about your drinking and smoking that early on in your pregnancy.  As long as you are not now your baby should be fine.

I just wanted to let you now that I am proud of you for all that you have already done for your child.  It does not sound like your mother's house was the best place for either of you so I am glad you have a safe place to be.

best wishes to you!

01/10/2013 - 04:21 PM
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Ello lovindapeace

I'm so sorry to hear what your going threw tht also has to be very stressful not having the suppor frm him or his family. I'm sure he will regreat not being in your daughters life & his family thts not fair to take anything out of a child.  i'm so glad you have the support from your mamma thts really important !! It's good to know im not alonee tho(: I have been stress free sense i moved in with my boyfriend and his family, best choice i could of made for me and the baby.

congrads on the baby girl btw thts what im hoping for(:

ps. whats pm mean?

01/09/2013 - 06:55 PM
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Hey mama2be18

Believe me, you are not alone. Also do not worry about the drinking and smoking cigarettes. I still smoke lightly and the doctor told me that he really does not want me to quit all the way... I have been smoking pretty heavily since I was 14 and he said that quiting all the way would put way to much stress on my body. Drinking however was not an issue for me to stop. I put that down just like a book after I finished it. 

 

I moved out of my parents house in June. Had a great job, just bought a car and was planning on getting an apartment of my own.

 

I was dating my baby girls father for about 5 months before I found out that I was pregnant. We were trying to work it out together living at his grandparents house. At 16 weeks, my pregnancy was considered at risk. The doctors told me that I had a 50-50 shot of keeping her to term. It was after that hospital visit that I decided to move back home.

 

With all this happening, my job ended up losing its contract with the company that we were contracted out to. I haven't been working since beginning of October... thankfully I was able to get unemployment, but I am still trying to find something for after Monica is born. 

 

We broke up early in December and have not spoken to each other since. He said that he wants nothing to do with our daughter. I am at almost 24 weeks right now. I have my parents and my family by my side, and his family is threatening to kill me or beat me until I lose my daughter. 

 

Its something where you just have to get through it, know that you need to be strong for your son/daughter. You learn to let the stress roll off because nothing could or would hurt more than losing the life growing inside you. 

 

You will get through it! If you need an ear or want to chat PM me. 

01/08/2013 - 09:21 PM
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Thanks firstxmommy2be for replying to my post(:

It;s good to know people really know how i feel and can relate to my feelings. Thank you for the advice i really do appreciate it(: and i cant wait for my ultra sound it will be my first one and it's this friday, im gonna cry to i just know it i get teary eyed just thinking about it.

01/08/2013 - 11:35 AM
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hey i know how you are feeling and you shouldnt worry an stress yourself out u jst have to do for you and your baby, i to was very stressed i had been out of work for 8 months due to a work injury an then  a few weeks before i go back to work i find out i am pregnant,  an it is a high risk  pregnancy also .. it is very hard but jst have to keep your head up and focuz on u an the baby when u hear the heart beat u will feel relief cuz u know the baby is ok, but once u get the ultra sound it is a hole new experiance i cried it was amazing , my first prgnacy i miscarried an it was hard, i was told i wasnt able to have them so this is a miracle an the relief u get knowing ur baby is ok , the ultrasounds are beutiful , i wish u the best of luck with your new baby, jst remember not to stress so much an be happy there are planty of things to do, jst keep your eyes and ears open ...

01/08/2013 - 09:24 AM
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clare8089 thank you so much for commenting on my post it means so much to me (:

She is here but shes not here not like a mother should be for her child, but its pretty much been like tht my whole life! she has always been my bestfriend just not really a mom ya know? I will try to get her by herself it's deff worth a try and deff something i would love to do(:

 

agian thank you!

01/06/2013 - 05:39 PM
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So sorry you're going through so much.  That sounds very stressful!  About the drinking and smoking I wouldn't worry to much.  It's great that you stopped as soon as you found out, generally people don't know they're pregnant until around 4 or 5 weeks anyway and people will often have had a drink or smoked before finding out.  So long as you don't continue to do so throughout the pregnancy the baby should progress well.  Some people even say you can have a glass of wine while pregnant however I never chose to do so. 

 

The stress about the apartment isn't fun but it's great that you have the support of your boyfriends family there along with him.  It sounds from what you said that you also have your moms support just maybe not in the best way possible.  Do you still see her?  Is she willing to meet up with you without having a drink, for example a shopping trip?  I'm sure it would be nice to include the future grandma in some baby shopping.  

 

I've found this site very helpful and the people are good to chat to and come up with good answers.  If you ever need to chat feel free to PM. 

01/06/2013 - 02:22 PM
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