So confused need advice ...

I'm not going to lie it's going to be challenging this last trimester with your four year old. I would try to introduce activities that could keep him distracted for a little while and maybe that would give you a chance to sit nearby and rest that way. With him being four it won't be for very long periods of time but should be enough to rest at least for a few minutes. It's only going to get harder once the baby gets here, so unfortunatley you are going to have to get used to being tired all the time. I know its exhausting, but you will get through it. If you have to go to hospital farther away, I don't think you have any worries. Chances are with this being your first pregnancy you will have plenty of time to get to the hospital to deliver and probably will be there for several hours before you actually deliver the baby. I wouldn't be too worried about that. Things seem not to move as fast with your first pregnancy. If you are that worried, maybe when it gets closer to time you could stay with someone that lives closer to that hospital if you know of anyone. 

I have been trying to relax  this is my first pregnancy so I jst don't know Wat I'm in for .adore adopted our soN when he was a year old ... So I'm 23 years old an 28 weeks pregnant now an scared... Lol n depending on the hospital I deliver in my husband works exactly 15 mins away from home an 3 mins away from the local hospital but if I go to the other one I will have to drive 1 hour or hour an a half to the other one...

I am a little nervous too about going into labor without my husband here, but thankfully he works 10 minutes away from home. We will however have a 30-45 minute drive to the hospital though. Try not to worry about it too much because stress is not good for you or the baby. I never had the chance to go into labor on my own with our first. I had to be induced due to preeclampsia. I am trying to make a plan for this pregnancy in terms of where my son will be when I do have the baby, but as far as labor I learned with my first not to make a plan and not to stress. My son too is very active and always gets into anything and everything. It's just something you have to adjust to when your pregnant when already having a kid. Your not going to be able to relax like you did with your first.  Maybe ask your husband/boyfriend if he can help out a little more, but no matter what it will be hard. My husband works third shift so I understand where you're coming from. 

Our life's to sound alike lol... It is jst so hard cuz I am to nervouse about going into labor in the middle of the night with jst me an my son exspecially when they say I may have to go to Boston for my Labor depending on the baby my next appointment  .. An he finally got back to  work so the games have lowered but I still feel like a single parent cuz he works all night he comes home feeds out son an lets me rest but then it's on me the entire day an I'm jst so tired and my son is so active 

Believe me when I say I know what you mean! Just about everything you said sounds like me. First of all, as long as you can feel your baby moving on the inside I don't think you have anything to worry about. He/She may not be kicking hard enough to feel it on the outside yet, but believe me it will get there. I am 26 weeks pregnant and I too am up around 4am every night. As soon as I get ready to go back to sleep my soon to be three year old is ready to get up. I feel like I have lost a lot of my patience as well because I am just so tired all the time (and having a two year old that loves to throw tantrums doesn't help). My husband works third shift so he is gone almost every night, then he gets home and sleeps most of the day. Our schedules are almost completley opposite and I think that makes it hard on me right now too. I'm nervous about his schedule with a newborn, but fingers crossed we can adjust easily. We take our son to the ultrasound appointments, and try to talk to him about having a baby brother. He has recently been able to feel the baby move which helps him feel connected I think. My son does not like sharing mommy at all, but I'm hoping by having him help as much as he can when the baby gets here that maybe it will allow him to feel like he isn't sharing me as much. My husband loves his video games too, but if I need something he does help out. Your husband may just be trying to get as much time with his friends and games in as he can before the baby gets here. If he still doesn't help when the baby gets here I would clearly tell him that he needs to step it up. He needs to do his part too. Try talking to your husband and telling him how you feel. He may not realize what he is doing. I hope everything works out for you!

Thank you all .. For your advice .. Yes finally my hubby is back to work, and I recently started a support group for moms to help with this stress and depression. so far so good, my 4 year old is getting better but was diagnosed with ADHD ... An it is hard cuz he can't go to school yet cuz he missed the age cut off so I have him 24 hours a day .. He doesn't feel he needs to listen to me  but working on it

Why get a nanny and pay for that when there is a man there who can step up and take part of the workload? If he's not working then he should be helping out around the house. My hubby works 5 days a week but he is still doing a hell of a lot around the house because I am unable to do certain things due to issues in my pregnancy.

To the OP, movement at 24 weeks is totally individual, I could feel my baby on occasion with my hand on my belly but I felt quite a lot internally so I wouldn't be worried as long as the regular movements you feel from your baby don't drastically change :)

And yes stupid wake up times are totally normal! Mine vary from between 2 and 4am and i'm usually awake for at least 1-2 hours.

I have a 3 1/2 year old and have included her in everything to do with this baby including being my 'little helper' when it comes to chores etc, she's also in school 5 mornings a week so she gets time away from me while I get time so try and relax and sort the few things around the house I can do. The impatience is normal too, it's hard but stepping away and taking a few deep breaths and having a cup of tea when you can will help.

Your OH needs a kick up the backside to start taking responsibility, if he won't then he needs an ultimatum. Is he still going to be like when you have a 4 year old and a baby? That's out of order and the very least he could do if he isn't over his surgery (so I assume can't do housework etc) is to entertain your child with activities like arts and crafts while you get on with other things. A relationship is a partnership not one sided, it takes two.

Have you thought about a nanny? They're pretty helpful.