I'm Tired of Being Judged
Submitted by mommy2two1
I'm 18. I have a 3-year-old daughter and I'm pregnant with a son. I've made a few unconventional choices, but I try to do the best I can. For some reason, no matter what I do, I'm stuck with this stigma that because I'm a teen mom, I'm a bad mom. Last I checked, the ability to love a child didn't have an age on it!
OK, lemme slow down and explain a little about me and then I'll explain why I'm so upset. I had my little girl at 15. Before I got pregnant with her, I was into drugs, drinking and just living a wild lifestyle. The day I found out I was pregnant, I stopped all of that. I tried to start avoiding people that did bad things and just provide for my daughter. Well, people who were supposed to be my "friends" got mad at me and they called child services and told them all kinds of lies. That's fine, that was unfounded; but it was deeply investigated and I even had to be put on supervised visitation until it was closed. Now that I'm pregnant again, I'm happy and my family is, too. Still, for some reason some people have a problem with accepting that a young mom can be a good one.
I was having problems with my pregnancy last night and called the doctor. The doctor told me to go to Labor and Delivery and to make sure I wasn't in pre-term labor (my daughter was a preemie, so the chances of my son being early are high). I went in, everything was OK. My nurse, however, came and sat on my bed beside me and started telling me how I should have had an abortion with both children! She said how being a young mom is hard and that she didnt think I could handle it! I was shocked, I couldn't believe how someone I didn't even know could be so blunt! All I could do was cry. My fiancé was sitting in the chair next to the bed and all he could do was blink! I just wanted to leave that place. I still haven't made up my mind to continue and actually deliver with that hospital, but I love my OBGYN and he won't deliver anywhere else.
So, I'm tired of being judged. I love my children. I may not be the world's greatest mom, but I do the best I can.