He Was No Accident
Submitted by JessicaM
Ever since I told my husband's family that I was pregnant, only a select few cared and supported us. Which shouldn't bother me because they are terrible people, but it's that totem pole syndrome where you don't feel equal in your own family. Maybe not even on the pole at all. I still feel like the weird outgoing pregnancy.
People think my baby's an accident just because I didn't announce to the world that my husband and I were TRYING. I didn't want people asking me how sex was going! A lot of people said "ahh man" and "aww thats too bad."
Just yesterday I found out what my baby was going to be. The first male in four living generations. Instead of everyone getting excited (I thought they would this time, like it became more of a reality), all they did was interrupt me and say, well, somebody else is having a baby, "guess who?"
And it's a woman that has been married and has a child by another man ... (I don't care but looked down on in this family) who hasn't been in the family nearly as long as I have. Nobody even cared to know cuz everyone was throwing a party for her in the background. A party I wasn't invited to.
I feel so left out. These people are crazy. I shouldn't feel bad, there are so many other people that support and already love this baby, but I'm scared of how my child will be treated.
Have you ever felt not so important by your significant other's or own family just because you are younger or different? Has your child ? How do you handle it?
Just yesterday I found out what my baby was going to be. The first male in four living generations. Instead of everyone getting excited (I thought they would this time, like it became more of a reality), all they did was interrupt me and say, well, somebody else is having a baby, "guess who?"
And it's a woman that has been married and has a child by another man ... (I don't care but looked down on in this family) who hasn't been in the family nearly as long as I have. Nobody even cared to know cuz everyone was throwing a party for her in the background. A party I wasn't invited to.
I feel so left out. These people are crazy. I shouldn't feel bad, there are so many other people that support and already love this baby, but I'm scared of how my child will be treated.
Have you ever felt not so important by your significant other's or own family just because you are younger or different? Has your child ? How do you handle it?
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