Everyone else is pregnant
My husband and I have been trying for two years and have underwent two IVF cycles, the 1st try was cancelled two days before egg retrieval because of OHSS risks. the last one ended up with a chemical. It seems like everyone around us are getting pregnant including the ladies at my clinic. I am happy for them, but I keep thinking I will get left behind. My girlfriends tell me to be patient or try not to worry abouso trying to get pregnant. I am hoping to for better luck next month when we do IVF again. Just confused and hoping to get to the light at the end of the tunnel.
wishing everyone lots of luck and positive tests that stick!
I'm so sorry. I hope you get your positive test and sticky baby soon!
I feel your pain too. Trust me the heartbreak now will turn to tears of joy when you get a positive BFP! The shock of finding out is all worth the wait no matter how hard it is. Keep trying and don't lose hope! I had a chemical pregnancy after two cycles, and now on my third, the result is positive so far.
Ladies, Please keep hoping! I actually got 4 positive beta tests the last two weeks from this last cycle of IVF. The shots still cause me bruising, itching, and burning, but the long term goal of beating infertility and having a baby is so worth it!
I am going to get my first ultrasound in two weeks and graduate to my regular obgyn this May. Needless to say, I'm a little anxious about the whole situation, but the nausea and breast tenderness along with other really gross symptoms give me confidence that something is growing and developing inside me. We implanted 3 embryos and hoping to find out which ones implanted. Just hoping for one since multiples are a bit scary at my age of 39 years old.
I hope to update all of you and keep thinking positive! IVF does work!
I am so sorry - that is so frustrating! Please vent away - I use to hate it when people would tell me to be paitent. I got to the point where I was not happy for people but thankfully I got my BFP and I hope you get your baby soon!
miracles do happen so I have to keep hoping and trying the best I can.
I agree with the comments and yes, it is true that some of the meds make you feel miserable too. I noticed that when I am not taking any of the birth control to start my IVF cycle, it is better not to feel sad or disappointed.
Everybody's story is so unique and I hope that you know that you are never alone with these struggles. I just talked to my girlfriend today who told me she is adoptng after not being able to get pregnant after having dies first daughter who wasn't planned. She has been trying a lot longer than I havergo everyone's situation is special. Glad that we can get support from others And who we choose to share this sensitive topic with.
I'm sorry, Inga. :( I hope the same thing!
It's been a tough fall/winter for me, too. We've been trying for 14 months now and it seems like everyone I know is having yet another child. What's especially frustrating is that they all seem to have had two kids since I've had my one. Obviously, I'm very grateful for my son, but it's still hard to see "everyone" popping out kids left and right when it's just not happening for us. When trying for my son, I actually got to the point where I gave up ... and that's when I got pregnant. I didn't even know until about 6 weeks (when a doctor urged me to test) because I assumed it was just another messed up cycle and was tired of getting my hopes up just to be let down. Hopefully, we'll all get our babies when the time is right.
I'm sorry. I think not worrying and being patient are easier said than done, especially when you've been TTC for that long and already put a lot into it. Saying a prayer that you'll have a healthy pregnancy soon!
I am feeling the same way - we are pushing 2 years of TTC - and I am so tired of the emotional roller-coaster, luckily I have a close friend who has been through this whole thing, and after 9 years of trying they finally managed to adopt a little baby boy, who is now legally theirs! I have 3 friends who are going to be having their first children in the next few weeks, and their baby showers have been heart breaking, why did I loose my 3 pregnancies & others get to have their happily ever afters with their babies - and people who have not been through it, or have forgotten what this feels like are so insensitive! How does anyone think that their comments will help - and how are we supposed to not worry about not being able to fall pregnant or stay pregnant! And then I have to listen to people who have had unplanned pregnancies complain about their children & how they wish they had never had children - every single day at work!
I hope that we all get to hold our own little bundels of joy soon!
I know how you feel. It has been 1 & 1/2 years for us so far, and I have seen many babies around me announced, carried, birthed, and 1st Birthday'd along the way, and it makes me feel the same way as you describe--just confused. And I just want to tell those other women who tell me not to worry about to just not say anything to me at all--because there is no such thing as not worrying about it, not talking about it, not thinking about it, or not wondering why about it all. We just can't let it consume us. But it seems like the longer we wait, the harder it is not to be consumed with thoughts about the "what ifs" and the "why nots" and the "why is she pregnant and not me" questions. And now it is even hitting me harder since one person who started trying at the same time as me, got pregnant the 1st or 2nd month of trying, had their baby, and he's 7 or 8 months now, and they're trying for their 2nd now. And I just wonder sometimes why other people can have it so easy to have multiple children so easily, while I'm trying so hard to just have one--just one--one of my own. And I keep thinking to myself how it is so funny that while we are trying, I'm going to have watched and celebrated with 7 different couples as they brought their first child into the world, and now we are still working on trying for our first while we watch them all begin to bring their second child into the world too. And that is just couples we are close with--there are others around me at work also that I'm not counting in that total.
I guess maybe I'm having a down day, because the Clomid has my emotions all over the place, and I'm worried about me still failing on Clomid, and worried that it might take even more to have just one child of our own. For some reason, each month it just starts feeling like all I will ever see is that blank space on a test, or that "not pregnant" phrase on a test, or that depressing -- sign on a test. I still have hope, but it just feels like I can't get my hopes up.
I'm wishing lots of luck to you too!